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amasimp · † Joined: 05 Mar 2004 Posts: 398 Location: Roseville, CA

My fiancee, the love of my life, John Bianco died on Sunday of sudden cardiac arrest. We were to be wed in a tridentine high Mass this April. He was 32.

We were just having a conversation and he suddenly stopped breathing. I called the paramedics and he was transported to the ER, but there was nothing they could do.

I managed to get him conditional Last Rites, but he was already dead when the priest arrived. He needs all the prayers for his soul that he can get. He read this forum nearly everyday and I'm sure he would appreciate all your prayers.

I, too, could use your prayers as I struggle to find meaning in all of this. It seems so cruel that God would take him away three months before we were to marry. We all have crosses to bare, but this is one I cannot bare alone. I am struggling to find how this all fits into His Divine Plan.

So, I beg all of you, get out your rosaries, if you know priests have masses said for him, offer up your Communions and indulgences, please, please, pray for the repose of the soul of my John. He was a good man, a good traditionalist Catholic, and he will truly be missed.

Thank you all.
Amanda

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Haurietis Aquas · † Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Posts: 2343 Location: Mid-West

servitium · Joined: 07 Feb 2004 Posts: 7816

Goodness, this one really hurts Amanda. Be assured of my prayers for you and John.

Belloc · Joined: 28 Sep 2005 Posts: 285

Amanda,

I'll be glad to pray for your beloved John.

My heart goes out to you.

Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord.

And let perpetual light shine upon him.

May he rest in peace. Amen.

cascade · Joined: 15 Oct 2005 Posts: 890

Dear Amanda, I am praying for your consolation,dear. The Sacrament given was still good,be assured. We can't know the exact time that a soul leaves the body. I entirely sympathise and please be assured of my prayers, dear Amanda.

Augustine · † Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 1342

Now is probably a good time to cover the conditions necessary for a Plenary Indulgence:

1. Recieve Communion
2. On the day of receiving Communion perform an act which carries a Plenary Indulgence (Prayer Before a Crucifix)
3. Add Our Father, Haily Mary, Glory Be for the Holy Father
4. Confession eight days within reception of communion and the Plenary act.
5. Detachment from sin

Go to Confession every two weeks, be detached from sin, and you can receive a Plenary at every Mass you attend, receive Communion and offer up the prayers for the Holy Father.

God puts great powers within our grasp (to apply the assurances a Plenary Indulgence grants to the souls of the Faithful Departed). How they must thank those who help them!

jbtrads · Joined: 21 Jul 2005 Posts: 79

Amanda,

Please be assured of our families' prayers as you struggle with this heavy cross. May it ultimately be for your sanctification and God's greater glory.

I wanted to mention that recently a faithful at our (SSPX) chapel passed away suddenly. Our pastor gave conditional last rites after death and at the funeral Mass explained to the faithful that the Church has always understood that the separation of the body and soul is not immediate but may take up to an hour. However, in the case of a sudden death, the understanding is that the soul may take up to three hours to leave the body. In the case of our parishioner, Father was able to administer last rites within the three hour window, and certainly spoke with hope at the funeral that the sacrament was efficacious. In the case of your John, if last rites were administered within three hours from death, there is a very good chance of the soul having been present, although we cannot presume. In any case, of course, we will add our prayers to yours for John's soul, and hope that the Faith keeps you united to Our Lord on the cross. God bless you.

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Trebics · Joined: 12 Jul 2005 Posts: 32 Location: Thousand Oaks, CA

Dear Amanda,
Be assured of our prayers for the repose of the soul of your beloved. May the Lord grant you His peace and strength to carry this cross, and may He grant you consolation now and happiness in the future. May His will be done.

Andy

Matthaei · Joined: 05 Mar 2005 Posts: 2088 Location: L.A.

Dear Amanda,

The news of your tragedy is a sobering thought. You must be full of questions day in and day out. I'm glad you found the presence of mind to post a thread for this. And I do so much hope you have some friends or family nearby who can be with you at a moment's notice. Be careful not to isolate yourself in this time.

I want to caution you to please not depend on the Internet for contact. You should really have a real person or several people nearby. This is when your parish community comes into play, but if you don't really have one, it's a very vulnerable time for you to go and find one.

On the surface, it seems to me that you were fortunate to be with him when this happened. Imagine if you had not been there, for whatever reason. There is certainly some clue of God's mercy in that fact. You have to hold on to what you have, you know, and a lot of people don't have even that much. You said you were "just having a conversation." Well, you know, you don't have to quit speaking to him. He's still listening to you, be assured of that. Only now, he has a much clearer perspective on everything, and he perhaps can become your best advocate, you know. It's very important for you to offer all your grief and discomfort for a penance and for the repose of his soul. That's something else you have in your favor, because imagine if you were not Catholic and someone tried to explain that to you right now!
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Haurietis Aquas · † Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Posts: 2343 Location: Mid-West

Steven · Joined: 06 Feb 2006 Posts: 516 Location: Mid Atlantic, USA

I have been praying for you and John since hearing of this on Sunday, Amanda, and will continue to do so. Though we have never met in real life, we have met in the virtual world, in particular on CM as one of the "9 rad-trads" of the forums over there. I also enjoyed reading John's post in the forums as well. God be with you and eternal rest grant unto him.

fr.domenico · Priest Joined: 04 Dec 2006 Posts: 793

requiem aeternam dona ei Domine, et lux perpetua luceat ei.
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Bill McEnaney · Joined: 08 Sep 2005 Posts: 557

Dear Amanda,

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your tragedy. I can't even imagine the pain you feel. But I promise to pray for you and for his soul. Cry

God bless and comfort you,
Bill

HowlinglyAbsurd · † Joined: 20 Sep 2004 Posts: 4520

Prayers and Rosary offered for this petition. Trust in faith that we are all reunited in Heaven.

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VL · Joined: 25 Sep 2006 Posts: 1147 Location: Toronto

May the Lord grant rest to the soul of your beloved John ... and comfort and strength to you, Amanda. Pray

Eulogius · † Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 726

My prayers for the repose of his soul, and may perpetual light shine upon him.

Haurietis Aquas · † Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Posts: 2343 Location: Mid-West

KateT · † Joined: 12 Jul 2005 Posts: 725

I am so sorry for your loss. I will offer my Rosary for you both tonight.
May Our Lady hold you fast in Her mantle.

Karen
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ZAROVE · Joined: 02 Oct 2006 Posts: 2550

I will add my own prayers for you.

Kankin · Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 339

amasimp,

I am deeply sorry for your loss of John
and I will pray for his soul and also
for you in your time of grief.
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TradCathYouth · Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 5:23 pm Post subject:

You have my condolences. I will pray for the repose of the soul of your fiance.
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Jeff Culbreath · Joined: 29 May 2006 Posts: 112 Location: Orland, California

Dear Amanda,

Fr. Erik Deprey, FSSP, of St. Stephen the First Martyr in Sacramento, has promised to schedule a Mass for John. Many in our parish will be praying for him and for you. We miss him. May God reward you for the joy you brought him.

dflat · Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 194

Amanda~

I'm so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Be assured you and John's soul will be in my prayers.

Be grateful to God for the gift of the time you had with him and take comfort in knowing you will be reunited one day.
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Isabel · † Joined: 03 Feb 2006 Posts: 463

Wow. Tears came to my eyes reading that. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I will remember his soul in my prayers.

And I will remember you in my prayers, as well, that you stay strong in the faith through all this.

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brownjul · † Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 315 Location: Oxnard, CA

Your heart and his must be soooo large...Your words reflect a love that most people will have never, never have know. A love that was a reflection of the divine in each other and with others. We never know why our lives are given the trials and the treasures that we would neither have sought or asked for...all we can do is keep our faith and know that this is just a "sojourn" until we go home. I know this doesn't help...I will do as you ask I will pray for you both...and all the lives that were touched by not just his love and life, but by yours. When I cannot bear another sorrow...I remember what Our Lady said to Bernadette, "Oh, Bernadette I cannot promise you happiness in this life, only the next." Therefore, your beloved is home and he is preparing a place for you. I am sure that the joy and the pure love you both experienced together was again a gift of a glimpse of the divine love that you will be enveloped in together with Our Lord, Our Lady and the Communion of Saints...forever. We will weave a quilt of our thoughts to you to send to heaven...God Bless you little one...
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servitium · Joined: 07 Feb 2004 Posts: 7816

Back to the top.

Haurietis Aquas · † Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Posts: 2343 Location: Mid-West

Guardian Angel · Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 500

http://classificationyard.blogspot.com/

I don't know who John Bianco was, so I googled him. I found this blog, and assume he is the same person. I like what I read on here. Requiescat in Pace.

Fiatvoluntastua · Joined: 14 Jan 2006 Posts: 8 Location: West Coast

I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how much you must be hurting right now. Prayers for you and for the repose of your loved one's soul.
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Amemus Athanasium · † Joined: 27 Oct 2006 Posts: 2566

Prayers from the Netherlands for you too.

Miserere ei, Domine.

May he enter the glory of the Lord soon.
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Justso · Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 225

Amanda,

I am deeply, deeply sorry about your loss. I will have John's soul in my prayers. Please do not despair. Place your trust & hope in Our Lord, as difficult as that may be at this time.

I will speak with Fr. this weekend about having a Mass said for your beloved John.

-Justin

moira · Joined: 07 Jan 2005 Posts: 53

I've been thinking about you all day and praying for you and John. I am so sorry for your loss.

murph · † Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 2840

I am so sorry for your loss.

Pray

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Romulus · Joined: 13 Feb 2004 Posts: 120 Location: New Orleans

Chesteretté · Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 192

Many thoughts and condolences to you and his family, and many prayers for John.
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servitium · Joined: 07 Feb 2004 Posts: 7816

This was sent to me privately by a poster who wishes to remain anonymous:

Amanda: I've called some priests and arranged for at least five Masses to be said for John thus far, and will continue to try to get more Masses said for both John and Amanda as well. You're in my daily rosary and prayer intentions as well. Please be assured of my continued prayers.

D.A. Zeray · Joined: 21 Aug 2006 Posts: 56 Location: Pennsylvania, USA

Dear Amanda, our prayers go out to you and to John. I am so sorry that your love was torn from you but remember that you can talk to him (as one of the post-ers said). God has a good plan for you. I've place a prayer request for you on our website http://ipsopa.com/Requests.html God be with you in your deep sorrow and may God grant John the eternal beatific vision that St. Thomas Aquinas (Jan 28th!) wrote so beautifully about.

amasimp · † Joined: 05 Mar 2004 Posts: 398 Location: Roseville, CA

JBD · Joined: 17 Jun 2006 Posts: 93 Location: Ontario, Canada

Dear Amanda,

This sure puts the troubles faced by all of us into perspective. We will pray for John's soul and for you and your families.

May he rest in the bliss of everlasting light.

JDobbs

JDobbs

dailyrosary · Posted: Thu Feb 01, 2007 6:55 pm Post subject:

I will definitely remember you and John in my prayers. I'm so sorry; I don't even know what to say to something like this.

crispin crispian · Joined: 11 Nov 2006 Posts: 147

My heart goes out to you. I will keep your fiancee in my prayers.
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pax · Joined: 21 Jul 2005 Posts: 188

Dearest Amanda,

Please accept my sorrow after reading your post. I, being one of little words am at a loss of what to say, how could I possibly console you. I promise to beg our Jesus to send you help. May the peace of God be with you.
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GodBlessJoanie · Joined: 02 Feb 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Washingtonville NY

I cannot imagine how you feel! Yes, this is going to take a great amount of faith! Please don't lose hope. Know now that you have someone who's pulling for you from Heaven!

You are in my prayers.
Blessings,
Joanie[/img]
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brownjul · † Joined: 09 Jul 2006 Posts: 315 Location: Oxnard, CA

Bump with a prayer...
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davidj · Joined: 29 Aug 2005 Posts: 114

Amanda, we will ask a priest to offer up a Mass for the repose of his soul over the weekend. I know what you mean about not being able to understand how this could possibly fit into God's plan - we had something last year, which I still do not understand and have been completely unable to come to grips with. The view from eternity will explain all, I am sure, but comprehension of events in this vale of tears is not something we are usually blessed with. May God bless you too, in coping with this tragedy - draw especially close to Our Lady who had to suffer so much as the mother of Our Redeemer.

Here is a prayer that may help...

Prayer to the Blessed Virgin
Never known to fail.
Oh most beautiful flower of Mt. Carmel, fruitful vine, splendour of Heaven,
Blessed Mother of the Son of God, Immaculate Virgin, assist me in my
necessity. Oh Star of the Sea, help me and show me herein you are my mother.
Oh, Holy Mary, Mother of God, Queen of Heaven and Earth! I humbly beseech you
from the bottom of my heart to succour me in this necessity. There are none
that can withstand your power. Oh show me herein you are my mother.
Oh Mary, conceived without sin, pray for us who have recourse to thee (3
times).
Holy Mother, I place this cause in your hands (3 times).
Holy Spirit, you who solve all problems, light all roads so that I can attain
my goal. You who have given me the divine gift to forgive and forget all
evil against me and that in all instances in my life you are with me, I want
in this short prayer to thank you for all things as you confirm once again
that I never want to be separated from you in eternal glory. Thank you for
your mercy toward me and mine.
The person must say this prayer for 3 consecutive days. After 3 days, the
request will be granted. This prayer must be published after the favour is
granted.