Dr. Joseph Nicolosi: “Homosexual behavior is always prompted by an inner sense of emptiness”
by Christine Niles, M.St. (Oxon.), J.D. • ChurchMilitant • March 10, 2017
ENCINO, Calif. – Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, a pioneer in gay reparative therapy, has passed away, succumbing to complications from the flu. He was age 70.
Nicolosi practiced as a licensed psychologist in California, and was a founding member and president of the North American Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), whose goal is to help same-sex attracted clients overcome unwanted homosexual desires.
According to its website, “It is the only secular group in the U.S. which protects the rights of therapists to counsel clients with unwanted homosexuality.”
“I am heartbroken and in shock over the news of Joe’s sudden death,” Arthur Goldberg told Church Militant. Goldberg was founder of Jews Offering New Alternatives to Healing (JONAH), which referred men and women who desired to overcome homosexuality to counselors who could help them.
“His unexpected passing is a tragedy for the family, all of his friends and associates, and for the world at large,” he continued. “He was truly an irreplaceable unique presence whose many contributions to the field of psychology were immense. He will be sorely missed by all of us whom he inspired over his lifetime. May G-d have mercy on his soul.”
NARTH’s website states: “Dr. Joseph Nicolosi has been successfully helping people all over the world understand these issues, the root causes and most importantly the solutions available. Reparative therapy helps those who wish to reduce their unwanted homosexual attractions and explore their heterosexual potential.”
Nicolosi was a widely published author and speaker who focused on understanding the root causes of male homosexuality. According to him, everyone is born heterosexual, but somewhere along the way some sort of trauma takes place that pushes the person towards homosexuality. If it’s not abuse, then the root cause is often a combination of distant, emotionally unavailable fathers and controlling mothers.
“Homosexuality is not a sexual problem,” Nicolosi said at a conference. “It is a gender identity problem.”
“Homosexuality is not about sex. It is about a person’s sense of himself, about his relationships, how he forms and establishes relationships, his self-identity, his self-image, personal shame, his ability to sustain intimacy.”
“Homosexual behavior is always prompted by an inner sense of emptiness,” he explained.
This pattern is confirmed by multiple clients who’ve successfully left the gay lifestyle and no longer experience same-sex desires.
“I was the quintessential kid that was set up for homosexuality on several levels,” said David Pickup, one of NARTH’s clients. “I didn’t identify well with my gender in growing up for various reasons. I wasn’t close to my father at all; I was defensively detached from him during a phase in my life when I was more attached to my sister and mother and that kind of thing.”
“I was also bullied by my peers because I think I was a very sensitive boy, and so I always felt odd — not boy enough. And then later on through puberty and above that, even, not man enough.”
After being sexually molested at the age of five, he went on to sexualize other boys. “In puberty I began to feel men and boys as an object, that they were an object,” he continued. “When my sexual hormones kicked in at puberty, I began to feel sexual feelings for boys, and later on, for men.”
In spite of the high success rate of gay conversion therapy, liberal activists and lawmakers have been on a crusade to ban such practices because it goes against the narrative that homosexuals are ‘born that way.’Tweet
In spite of the high success rate of gay conversion therapy, liberal activists and lawmakers have been on a crusade to ban such practices because it goes against the narrative that homosexuals are “born that way” and can’t change. They’ve argued instead that conversion therapy is harmful, and have even described it as “torture.”
Currently, five states, plus Washington, D.C., ban reparative therapy for minors.
At his passing, Nicolosi was working on a project to disprove this thesis that reparative therapy is harmful. In 2016, he and Dr. Carolyn Pela presented results of an ongoing study showing that conversion therapy actually reduced stress and contributed to the client’s overall emotional and physical well-being — contrary to gay activists’ claims.
“Findings from preliminary data collected over a 12-month period indicated statistically significant reductions in distress and improvements in well-being, significant movement toward heterosexual identity, and significant increases in heterosexual thoughts and desires with accompanying significant decreases in homosexual thoughts and desires,” he summarized.
Church Militant reported on the plight of Arthur Goldberg, who endured litigation brought by gay activists, represented by the leftist Southern Poverty Law Center, who accused JONAH of consumer fraud — a charge he vigorously denied.
The court, evidencing clear bias in several rulings, refused to allow Goldberg to bring expert witnesses to testify on his behalf — among them Dr. Nicolosi. The judge wrote in the opinion denying Goldberg’s use of leading reparative therapists, claiming that anyone holding the view that sexual orientation can change is behind the times, and comparing these experts to folks who believe the earth is flat.
After costly litigation, the court ordered Goldberg to shut down operations in December 2015, after which he went on to found JIFGA and a crowdfunding site, FundingMorality.com.
Because of Nicolosi’s controversial and politically incorrect narrative on homosexuality, he endured misinformation campaigns from secular media, including a protracted battle with Wikipedia.
“Specifically, my therapy is wrongly described in Wikipedia,” he explained. “In fact, I never tell SSA men that they should avoid opera and art museums; attend church; learn to mimic ‘straight’ ways of walking and talking; join group therapy; begin dating and then marry, etc.”
“Whenever I correct these areas on the Wikipedia page,” he continued, “the entries are promptly changed back into their original form by an activist writer.”
Nicolosi is survived by his wife and son, Joseph, Jr.