Gay couple says they were denied communion over relationship revealed in an obituary

Gay couple says they were denied communion over relationship revealed in an obituary

February 1, 2014
By Deacon Greg Kandra
The Deacon’s Bench


It happened in Missouri, but this sounds strikingly similar to the story that made news in Maryland a couple years back:


A couple who lives outside of Chillicothe say their priest denied them communion when he discovered they were in a same-sex relationship. Carol Parker and her partner of nearly 20 years, Josephine Martin, say they were good standing members of Saint Columban Catholic Church in Chillicothe for 12 years.

They say that all changed when Parker had her mother’s funeral at the church following her death on December 26th. The obituary noted Parker’s mother was survived by a son, a daughter and her daughter’s partner.

“If that one word had not been in there, he would be fine,” said Martin.

Parker said she had been a member since 2001 and served as a lector, a cantor and also sang in the choir.

“He had called me the day of the rosary and said he wouldn’t be able to give us communion because of our same-sex relationship,” said Parker.

The couple says they will never step foot in the church again. Parker said it took away a final opportunity.

“It was very important to me, my last opportunity to worship here at the church with her,” Parker said.

Martin said she and Parker don’t understand why the priest compounded the pain of a funeral with his decision.

“To be singing in the choir and be lectors, and everything, it’s all God. He just took it away in a second,” Martin said. “I just really don’t understand where his heart is.”

FOX 4 did attempt to speak with Father Benjamin Kneib but we were told by his secretary that he did not wish to comment.


The St. Joseph News-Press, meantime, has this ( ):

[Ms. Parker] provided PROMO, a Kansas City-based advocacy organization for the LGBT community, with a Jan. 1 follow-up letter Father Kneib sent her in which he further explained his decision.

According to a press release from the organization, the letter stated that “having a same-sex attraction is not sinful in and of itself … it is only when a person moves from attraction to willfully acting upon it that the situation becomes a sinful matter.”

Father Kneib also apologized to Ms. Parker that the events that had transpired took place at the time of her mother’s funeral. When contacted by the News-Press, Father Kneib had no comment.

Ms. Parker said she hopes that the priest might “open his eyes and fully receive the LGBT community into the church.”

“We’re all God’s children, and we have every right to receive Communion,” she says. “Even the pope has said, ‘Who am I to judge?’”

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4 Comments to “Gay couple says they were denied communion over relationship revealed in an obituary”

  1. gpmtrad says:

    They’ll just keep pushing from every direction, cheered on by the queerest White House in history and backed by every judge they can haul any Christian in front of.

    This will not end well, or nicely, or soon.

    Most Americans don’t give a d***, anyway.

  2. St. Francis says:

    No they don’t. They care more about the Superbowl commercials, the premier of the next Iphone, smartphone or tablet, and if Punxsutawney Phil saw his shadow or not. This is post-Christian modern America folks. I predict in the next ten to twenty years traditional Catholics in the USA and in Europe will be martyred for upholding the true faith by leftwing progressivists in the judiciary, politics, academia and in the media.

  3. gpmtrad says:

    That’s if the Bishops’ Women’s Conference on Eliminating Patriarchy and Archaic Notions doesn’t first get itself federalized and is issued ATF gear and weapons.

    Which may necessitate an alteration in the rubrics during Antiphons, to allow for time to return fire…

  4. St. Francis says:

    Well, like William Prescott said at the Battle of Bunker Hill (or more proper Breed’s Hill) “Don’t fire till you see the whites of their eyes”. Or in this case; “don’t fire till you see the estrogen filled babyboomer women with the trousers and sportjackets”!

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